I completely agree. You need to look for causes. Certainly, marrying someone just because she does not have a career is a dumb move.

And I also completely agree that you need to put the marriage first, and that most Americans get trapped in needing their job to support a lifestyle that just hungers for more money. I particulcarly like one phrase from the Parable of the Sower (the seeds along the path, in the rocks, in the weeds and in the good soil) – the one in the weeds is said to have been traped by the “deceptiveness of wealth” … I don’t know which translation that is from, but it has always struck a chord with me. Our “need” for a bigger house, a newer car, a “better” school – they all can distract from what God has called us here to be.

Again, thanks for thinking.